Well hello new and old friends of the online space -- it is my hope that all has been well with and for you. Not much time for small talk so I am diving right in on this one . . . . STAY THE COURSE -- life gets tough, yes . . things can often get very hectic and you somewhat feel like "WHAT IS GOING ON HERE" . . . keep going! I know this is easier said than done however your greatness, your destiny, your overflow is on the other side of your ability to PUSH THROUGH and STAY THE COURSE!
Invest time, energy and treasures (yes money) this year on re-programming your mind. Don't allow negativity, pessimism, fear, insecurity, doubt or anything similar to block you from staying the course. Think about the people you look up to in your family, within your friend circle, celebrities, etc. ---- guess what? . . . GUESS! Okay, I'll tell ya -- they are NO DIFFERENT THAN YOU . . . Take the class, apply for the job, read the book, start the blog, contact the person, do the thing . . . whatever it is that you want to give a go . . . TRY IT! There are no failures in this life just a plethora of learning opportunities and chances. Are you going to program the GPS of your life or just ride aimlessly and end up wherever; the choice is yours!
Hey Tab! Any suggestions for investing in self?
Glad you asked! Just a moment ago I challenged you to spend time, energy and treasures investing in you. Below are THREE ways you can invest in yourself this year so that you ensure you are #StayingTheCourse -- Best Wishes!
1) STOP spending time on things that do not matter; if it is not connected to who you want to become or it does not benefit your life holistically . . . it does not deserve your time! Period!
2) Take care of yourself; I am not just talking about mani/pedi dates and brunch; I am also referencing therapeutic activities, reading, thinking, being alone, dealing with trauma, avoiding negativity and addressing situations that need attention. No more ignoring yourself and your needs!
3) INVEST IN YOU! Just maybe you skip a pair of shoes, an expensive dinner or a wild trip with friends and spend those funds on getting some "self help" -- maybe it's time for structured therapy, maybe you need to take a course or attend a conference, maybe you want to get a coach or expert professional to help you in career or business planning. Add value this year!
Don't let 2020 be another year of saying "this is my year" or "new year, new me" when you aren't really doing the work; time out for that -- let's get to it! If you need an accountability partner or someone to talk through some plans with, my calendar still has a few complimentary spaces, click here to secure your spot!
HAPPY NEW YEAR!
A Reflection by Tabitha D. James
Yes, the title says Ain't Nobody Playin', incorrect grammar and all, I need you to FEEL this -- I'm not playing and you shouldn't be either. The greatness inside of us is conveniently located on the other side of our games, excuses and fear; let's get to work.
So it took me a little while to come back with a follow-up to Make it Happen - W.E. Reflection Part I because chiiiiiiiileeeee listen, I had to sit in my emotions and really grasp what occurred and how I felt about it. You could be reading this and Woman Evolve isn't your thing, that's okay, this message is still applicable. The meat of this message is that it's critical for you to consistently work on yourself and your ultimate well-being. Rather it's an event you want to attend, a person you want to meet, an opportunity you want to take . . . . so on and so forth . . . personal develop goes beyond degrees, certifications and surface-level connections. To truly thrive AND be holistically well while doing so, you have to dig deep and be intentional with your thoughts and actions. Below are three things I feel are vitally important, there are more but these are critical at any stage:
1) Assess your circle. Who are you connected to? - We are the sum of our surroundings. Birds of a feather flock together; are you an eagle or a chicken?
2) What are your intentions and exceptions? Do you have any? - A fail to plan is a plan to fail; be intentional with your actions and have an idea of what you're seeking. Imagine your life as a road-trip, if there's no destination in the GPS you're just driving, if you enter an address, no matter how many times you deviate from the original path, it will update and eventually you'll get to your destination. Trust the process!
3) Have you reflected? Do you reflect? - Reflection, reflection, reflection. Don't just aimlessly go through life. Take the time to reflect on what has occurred and how it has made you feel. Don't be afraid to get lost in your emotions, you deserve to have awareness around your feelings.
Enjoy this RAW and transparent video that breaks down the above points; it is my hope that something from this message is food for your soul -- be sure to comment or shoot me a message about your thoughts!
Hi! I'm Tabitha "Tiny Tab" James, I reside in small town America and I specialize in coffee drinking, mentoring, strategy and a hit of constructive sarcasm. A few years ago (like ten now) I decided to just go for it. What is "it" -- not sure, still chasing it! I want to WIN, success is attainable and I believe that -- life is a journey not a destination; I'm enjoying the trip, join me!
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Well Hello! Our blog has been a little neglected lately but thanks to Julia (life-saver), we have a new featured read highlighting personal wellness. We aligned with Julia over one-year ago and after a personal break, she followed-up with an amazing piece . . . Enjoy :) Be sure to comment, share and be sure to refresh your wellness plan!
Contributor: Julia Merrill
Let’s get one thing straight: There’s no such thing as “having it all.” The phrase was coined as a way to encourage women to go after the things they want, but it evolved into an impossible standard that many are still trying to live up to. Look, there are only 24 hours in a day, seven days in a week, and 52 weeks in a year. That’s not enough time to “have it all.” We have to make choices and sacrifices to go after the things we want. However, one thing we should never sacrifice is our health.
Good health is a blessing many of us take for granted. Instead of appreciating it and caring for it, we often skip yearly checkups, stay up through sleepless nights, and fuel our bodies with food that has little to no nutritional value. All these bad habits may not mean much on their own, but over time they build up and can have a negative impact on your overall well-being. Instead of letting that happen, take some time out of your daily schedule to practice self-care and appreciate your health. It will contribute to a longer and happier life overall.
Break a Sweat
While no woman should hit the gym obsessing over working toward the perfect body, skipping your workout has serious health implications. We need exercise to control our body weight, reduce the risk of heart disease, and maintain muscle tone. Weightlifting can also help prevent osteoporosis by increasing bone density. This is especially important for women who make up the majority of those diagnosed with osteoporosis. Furthermore, any kind of exercise releases helpful neurotransmitters that promote positive mood, reduce pain, and improve overall sleep quality.
Eat the Rainbow
In the ‘90s, eating well was all about buying weight-loss shakes and low-fat snacks in colorful boxes. Today, we know better. If you want a healthy diet, start by upping the amount of produce you buy, and focus on “eating the rainbow.” That is, buy fruits and vegetables from all over the color spectrum. The color of a fruit or vegetable reflects its nutritional value. For instance, the orange in carrots comes from the nutrient beta-carotene, which converts to vitamin A in the body. Make the bulk of your meals an array of colorful fruits and vegetables and complement them with lean proteins, healthy fats, and whole grains for a nutritious diet.
Go with Your Gut
Let’s dive deeper into the benefits of a well-balanced diet. Ever feel like you’re on a rollercoaster of emotions in one day? You’re not alone, and there’s a good reason for it. In fact, there’s growing evidence about the connection between gut health and mood. Yes, all the tiny microorganisms in your gut don’t just play a role in digestion and immunity; they also contribute to mood levels by secreting various hormones like serotonin and dopamine. The healthier your microbiome (gut health), the happier you’ll feel! You can accomplish this by starting with your diet. Reach for foods and beverages that contain live cultures, such as kefir and yogurt. You can also add probiotic supplements to send more healthy bacteria to your gut.
Give Me a Break
A woman’s work is never done, right? Wrong! You deserve a break as much as anyone. If you don’t take time out to rest and relax, it can catch up to you in unexpected ways. When we are overworked, we get moody, anxious, and irresponsible. In fact, it’s not uncommon for overworked people to start slipping up on the job -- which is not why you work all those long hours. Leave the office when your work is over, make time for vacations, and take a mental health day if you think you need it. Even if you aren’t a full-time career woman, you still deserve a break.
When it comes to your work at home, try treating yourself by hiring a dog walker or house cleaner to help reduce your chores and workload. Use that time to do something you enjoy, instead. Just keep track of your budget. An hour-long walk usually costs $22 - $27, and maid services can charge an average of $15 - $30 hourly.
A final word . . .
When you neglect self-care, it can have serious health implications. Taking time out of your busy schedule to eat nutritious meals, exercise, and relax is imperative if you want to support both your mind and body.
by: Tabitha D. James
Heyyyy friend! So I have been back from Denver, CO for a few days and I am still on a spiritual high from what went down at #WomanEvolve19. I must say Sarah and her team DID THAT! I attend A LOT and I mean A LOT of events for personal and professional reasons and I have never witnessed such magic.
It might take me a little minute to process all that I have to say but I won't leave y'all hanging too long. This short message is the kickoff of my reflection and it's for anyone who is in a season of transition, a season where they need to evolve. It's time to MAKE IT HAPPEN!
Make it Happen
To make it happen, whatever your "it" is -- You might have to sacrifice some things (or some people), you may have to feel uncomfortable, you might have to skip brunch but guess what . . . the person you want to become is on the other side of your obedience. Last year when I couldn't attend this conference due to a conflicting commitment, I said "I WILL be in the room next year". At the time, I didn't know who I was going with, how I was going to pay for it (admission, plane ticket, lodging, ride share, food, etc.) but what I did know was that I not only wanted this, I NEEDED IT -- I made it happen!
This really has nothing to do with me but more to do with God and His promises. Yes, I worked hard, yes I secured a few extra bags to make sure I could attend but when He saw I wasn't playing, He filled the gaps. Not only did He send me a #ConferenceSis , He sent me someone who is also evolving, someone who is genuine, someone who in less than a year has been an amazing friend, sister and listening ear. When I stepped out on faith to buy the ticket in February, before having all the answers and logistics worked out, I heard Him say "don't worry". Sometimes you have to TAKE THE STEP! God can't meet you if you don't do your part!
Maybe for you it isn't a conference you desire to attend, though I do suggest attending at least one in your professional field and one for your personal well-being each year, that's besides the point right now! Possibly for you it's a job you want to apply for, a class you want/need to take, an idea you want to manifest, a goal you want to reach -- MAKE IT HAPPEN -- do your part! You can't always be "on the scene" and "in the know" nor can you remain in the "getting ready" stage forever; find some focus, set your intentions and MAKE IT HAPPEN!
Soooo many times, folks ask me about the "secret sauce" or how I do it, honeyyyy ain't no sauce, I put in the work and I am not afraid to fail, fall or look silly while answering the call. I set a motto for 2019 back in January, "be like Noah", folks thought Noah had lost his WHOLE mind while he was building the ark, once the flood came . . . . Noah didn't look so silly! You don't have to be like Noah, nor be like Tab, I just want you to operate as the BEST version of yourself. Set your intentions, operate in excellence and go MAKE IT HAPPEN!
We'll chat again soon friend :)
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